After months confined at home, without being able to leave with the usual liberty, except for fundamental needs or to take a walk the psychological effects of confinement are more apparent than ever.
The reality of our new life is that 90% are, at this time, locked up inside our minds. This situation not only affects adults but children as well. How does a teenager or a child live with confined emotions?
Family life has been converted into the angular stone of our day. It is a confined coexistence where, in theory, the most vulnerable are those that have the most to lose.
But, are you going backward? Do you really know how to face it?
A recent report, entitled Confined Infancy, provides amazing data: 94.6% of the children interviewed are convinced that their confinement’s only purpose is to prevent the spread of the virus.
Implicitly, they assume that they can’t go to school, or park with their friends. What are they most worried about? Undoubtedly covid-19, its economic situation and, in a third place, the duration of the confinement.
Therefore, they are very aware of the limitations and their consequences, so they can also recognize stress, sadness and fear. But above all, boredom.
During the confinement, we are bombarded by routines and counsels of all kinds, on all counts related to physical and mental well-being, to “self”, to the individual.
But, beyond making bread or maintaining hygiene rules, to impose a schedule, a series of guidelines for studying and working, from routine to routine, for several days, we have forgotten about our coexistence and its importance.
Nowadays, it is much more important to consider that it is essential to have a positive relationship at home.
Last week, on a ‘Webinar’ organized by the ‘100 Thanks’ project, participants insisted on the importance of positive family life as a key protective factor in this situation.
“I work every day with children, children and teenagers from six to 18 years old as a 5th and 6th-grade teacher, school mediator and therapist, and I could observe, firsthand, the importance of an environment that makes it easier to understand information about what is happening, and what helps people to understand the rules,” said a participant.
The proof is that most boys and girls have demonstrated this when they have gone out into the street. What father or mother has not heard a childish voice reproaching him for a bad word, reckless driving or even a cigarette that they are not used to seeing?
Think about it. When it comes to applying the rules, the smallest carry them to the letter, having internalized that they carry risks. And the coronavirus is potentially the worst of those risks.
There are more fundamental data in the report on how we understood the pandemic. In front of the war language installed in the media, its response is also a forceful one.
According to the quoted report, “the children do not allude to a situation of war, of combat, even though the policy of protection is marked by a clear slant of imminent danger.”
Minors are inclined towards solidarity, understanding confinement as “a measure to taking care of themselves and to take care of others”.
Because they are educating in coexistence, entering into coexistence, developing coexistence, setting aside the personal to focus on the relational, it has been and will be a decisive factor for the majority of families to avoid conflicts.
Children have understood confinement with such clarity, responsibility, and knowing how to be as much alive as possible.
All of them have given us a lesson that we must never forget: they were the first and best known to adapt to this situation, renouncing their interests in favor of the common good, in favor of coexistence.
As adults, we only have one thing to do: having them as an example, we will surely learn a lot.